I know. I know. This may be a surprising post coming from me. After all, I talk about reducing chemicals in our household cleaners and the value of farm fresh eggs. We uprooted our lives to live a simpler, more healthy lifestyle and strive to grow our own food. But, while I really believe in knowing where our food comes from, I still feed my kids processed food.
Ten minutes on social media will show you that there are a lot of people that are passionate about their food choices, and they are not afraid to tell you how wrong you are if you don’t do things their way. I’m pretty sure this post will not make me popular with either side.
Here is why I don’t stress when I feed my kids processed food:
I refuse to put strain on my family’s finances. Buying all organic, grass fed, non-GMO, gluten free, etc is expensive. We are working to grow everything we can and make stuff from scratch to make it more affordable, but it’s a process. I refuse to beat myself up for taking baby steps, and allowing myself time to learn and grow.
Some days, we just get so busy that the last thing I can manage to do is cook. I try to have healthy food readily available. But, after several days of only having time to run inside for a quick lunch and coming in after dark, fried bologna with macaroni and cheese hits the spot.
I will choose feeding my kids processed foods over being a stressed out screaming mommy. Sometimes, I just have to know my limits. My kids will get over the MSG a lot faster than the effects of a screaming mommy.
I can’t do it all, and I am okay with that. I am not defined by my homemade bread or my spotless house. (And, that’s fortunate since most of the time neither of those exist.) It’s important to do the best I can… Then give myself plenty of grace.
Honestly, it makes me mad that we can’t simply go to the grocery store and buy food without scouring every label for high fructose corn syrup or whatever cheap filler they decide to use.
It is maddening that healthy food is so much more expensive than junk.
However, what bothers me most is the way we, as moms, attack one another for our choices. Be it the food we eat, whether or not to vaccinate our children, or how we discipline, there is another mom ready to tell us that we are ruining our kids. The truth is we are all researching, weighing the odds, and making the best decisions we can for our families. Many times there is not a “right way”. There is only “the best we can do in our situation”. And, overall, we need to remember that being able to argue over such things means we are extremely privileged.
Mommy wars are for women that don’t have to worry about if they will be able to buy a cup of rice for their hungry children with their meager day’s wages, or if they will be able to find clean water, or if they can afford basic medical care. Mommy wars come from a life where not only are all of our basic needs met, but many of our desires. Mommy wars come from a position of choice, yet we try to take the choices of others away by shaming them for choosing a different path. Mommy wars come from a place where we have time to manage our homes, plus time to look over and try to manage our neighbor’s home as well.
So, the next time we feel the need to criticize another mom for choosing differently than us, I pray that we will remember how blessed we are. Then, may we get on our knees and say a prayer for her.
Have you been affected by mommy wars? How did you deal with it?
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